They Grow Up So Fast

Stuck for something to do with the kids this weekend? Well, fret no more.

Why not take ’em to Northampton – and the ‘Make Me Fabulous’ pole-dancing studio.  There, your four year-old can while away the hours with classes training them in the essential art of ‘holding their legs in a V-shape while sliding down a pole’. Not convinced? Well, maybe you oughta loosen up. As the site reminds us, ‘you were born with wings – don’t ever forget to fly’. 

Damn straight. I’m like a bird, losers.  Let me soar.

If only. Chipped toenail varnish, yep. Weird bumpy bruise on left leg, yep. Random hair on chin (despite repeatedly plucking the little beast), yep. Wings – not so much.  Unless you mean bingo wings, which, as mum reminds me, are just a matter of time.

Seriously though. If you want to pole-dance, then fine.  But toddlers? The clue’s in the name – they can barely walk, let alone gyrate.

Bratz baby dolls wear thongs.  Padded bras are  for primary school. ‘Family’ viewing features performances that wouldn’t be out of place in a strip club. Such sexualisation has a massive impact upon mental health. In particular, it’s linked to eating disorders, depression, shame, anxiety and poor self-esteem. So who or what, is the culprit? Does one even exist?

It’s easy to scapegoat the media and modern culture. They certainly play a part.  Yet research conducted for the Scottish parliament suggests  that it is mainly parents, not children, who worry about sexualisation. In addition, it’s the sexualisation not of their own, but other people’s children that concerns them. Meanwhile, the children themselves, interviewed for the same piece of research, were far more likely to be influenced by peer pressure than by the internet.

Perhaps it’s a confusion of terms.  Sexual versus sexualised.  Empowered versus objectified.  Kids versus mini-adults. This week I read that five year-old Suri Cruise has a $150,000 shoe collection, whilst baby Sarkozy has been hailed as ‘the perfect marketing tool for the president’ ahead of next year’s elections. Go figure.

We can’t censor everything and we can’t shelter our kids from the outside world.  Yet we are responsible for our purchasing decisions.  We can talk to our kids, model discernment and teach them about values beyond the exterior. But before we tackle child sexualisation, perhaps we need to cover our own eyes first.

4 thoughts on “They Grow Up So Fast

  1. These pictures make me weep. More and more I am confronted with this kind of twisted view of childhood and sex. Child pornography, child prostitution, grown women trying to look like babies, mothers dressing babies to look like hookers. Flesh, Flesh, Flesh to sell EVERYTHING! I ask God “what can one person do?” He has given us five sons, so I spend my days trying to raise up boys to be godly young men who would rather die than victimize someone like this. It is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. How to mother our one little girl also scares me because I know I can’t protect her from all the evil and it KILLS me! We can teach our kids (and anyone else we come in contact with) that worth comes from God, and believe it ourselves. Beyond that I think we have to make it our business to be objectors whenever and however we can. Even if it costs us. It is God’s heart to avenge the innocent and helpless. Thank you for this disturbing post.

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