Feel the Feeling

steven seagalEmotions are like muggers.  They creep up on you from behind.  They steal your lunch.  They’re knock you to the floor and cling to your neck.

Anger ‘overcame’ me. Anxiety ‘attacked’ me.  Guilt ‘ate me up’.

Fear ‘paralysed’ me with its scary laser gun.

The trick with feelings,  is to squash them before they squash you.  Sit on them or poke them in the eye.  Stuff them in a drawer and ignore the rattles.

But whatever you do, don’t give them room.

Swallow them and call it nausea.  Sit on them and blame your haemorrhoids. Intellectualise them (and and take a pill for your headache).

Deny them and rename them and transfer them and do everything to them except feel them. Because even though squashing them is making you sick – feeling them is worse.

But if you don’t feel them, here’s what happens:

They don’t just go away.

They leak out – in addictions and obsessions and little routines.

They bleed in to each other – so you can’t tell them apart.

And sometimes, if you suppress them for long enough,  they stop trying to speak. And the silence is worse than the sadness.


7 thoughts on “Feel the Feeling

  1. Wise insights, Emma.

    Or in other often used words,

    “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
    a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
    a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
    a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away.”
    (Eccl 3:1,3-4,6 ESV)

  2. Aww, yeah Friday’s are good! I didn’t see this til Tuesday though, and Tuesdays are less exciting!
    Still appreciating your blog – keep going!

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