DON’T DO IT!!!!
(I know, hilarious. Sorry. Though in point of fact, that’s exactly what the taxi driver said to Glen on the way to the church. ‘She’ll drain the life out of you. Wait till you’re fifty and get a twenty-year old blonde’. And he hadn’t even met me. A similar thing happened at our reception in Australia. One of Glen’s friends rocked up to me with this opener: ‘Blimey. You’re not at all what we expected. We thought you’d be leggy, blonde and gorgeous. Anyway – congratulations’). Well they do say the first year is the hardest.
So – words of wisdom..
Marriage feels like death. We did a marriage prep class and that’s how we started it. Ephesians 5:25 – husbands, lay down your lives. But it is a way of finding life too.
The grass is always greener. If you’re married you’ll think all your single friends are out clubbing with male models and speed dating in trendy bars. If you’re single you’ll picture domestic schmaltz as you listen to Celine Dion on repeat. If you’re childless, it hurts. If you’ve got kids, you miss your freedom. Nothing but Christ satisfies. Glen is a great husband but he’s a terrible Saviour.
A sense of humour is vital. Especially when things are tough. Sometimes it’s a choice between tears or laughter. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
You are more selfish than you could ever have realised.
You will fall out of love. At least the kind of love you see on TV. This is good. It’s the precursor to a deeper, better relationship.
The only person you can change is yourself. Yes I know, it sounds like a Hallmark card. But you try living like that.
You learn by making mistakes.
No-one should be closer than your partner. Not your family, not your best girlfriends, not your dog, not your ‘ministry’. Newsflash – your marriage is your ministry.
And finally. Marriage is fun.