A New Name

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  1. Kinga
    Nov 24 - 8:57 am

    I read the same article a few weeks ago. Few things really touched me and one was when she described her life as perfect before the tragedy. Being a person with multiple losses in midst of my family one of the things really hit me during those extremely painful periods the lack of understanding and empathy from people who never experienced any losses in their lives. I remember going to my church 2 days after my 18 years old sister passed away. This forced happy clappy atmosphere waiting there for me, ‘you shouldn’t look like a lemon because God loves you’, etc. I felt like dying inside because of the pain and people just couldn’t get what means to deal with a shock (with some exceptions obviously). Or it was just easier to ignore it, pretending nothing has changed. I had at least one hundred more similar experiences during the next years and it came the moment when I HAD to accept the fact that people will never ever understand another human being who is struggling with grief and loss until they don’t go through the same experience. There is no way to get those feelings. They can have some empathy but understanding never. Articles like this gives me back the hope that God knows what He is doing and He has to let some of us walk through the valley of death to understand others. It might look like a disaster for others, people can ignore us because it’s easier to cling to the happy but the truth is that God is behind these events and He enabled and made us strong enough to walk on this path.

  2. emma
    Nov 24 - 10:31 am

    Thank you Kinga. Very true – though sometimes He leads us through the valley of death, He is with us and strengthens us through it. And this helps us comfort others too.

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