A New Name

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  1. Susie
    Feb 11 - 5:00 pm

    Thanks Emma. Excellent gospelling as always. I’m challenged that I’m not doing God’s work in hating myself, but in fact it’s deeply ungodly to do so.

  2. Emma
    Feb 11 - 6:36 pm

    Thank you so much for this. I started seeing a counsellor last week and we were discussing that I often hate myself. I’ve printed this off to take to my session tomorrow (she’s not a believer but is happy to work with my faith not against it). X

  3. Emma
    Feb 12 - 1:33 pm

    Thanks Emma – hope it helps!

  4. mary beth
    Feb 12 - 5:10 pm

    Is a very helpful article but I do want to share something I heard, a different view that might even be very helpful…

    The late great Elisabeth Elliot reminded folks of the scripture Ephesians 5:29, ‘For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church’. Mrs. Elliot went on to explain that are real problem is that we love ourselves TOO much that we hate when our life is difficult so the devil makes us think we hate ourselves but we really are loving our self so much and concentrating on ourselves too much, not focusing on God’s sovereign mercy and love, hence the problem. This totally changed the way I viewed myself, and it really helped me to confess my self-centered, self-focused ways. Once it was explained to me this way I truly received healing in this area and it’s been almost 30 years ago and I am still blessed and healed by this truth once it was explained to me this way. I think when we focus on ourselves and take the focus off of God, that is where the problem lies. I thought I’d share this just because it was such a benefit to me. I’m not judging anyone at all for feeling this way, I think the devil wants us all to believe his lies. I want to share God’s Word concerning this in hopes it will bless another.

  5. Ria Visser
    Feb 12 - 6:11 pm

    I am so glad you talk about this difficult subject. Difficult also for me. Selfhatred is something I wrestle with for so many years already. And my biggest wrestling is that I know that God doesn’t hate me and doesn’t want me to hate myself… in the light of Psalm 139… Oh, so difficult…
    Your words give me a sort of consolation by sharing the Words of God.
    thank you!

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  7. Emma
    Feb 13 - 6:24 pm

    Thanks Ria.

  8. Emma
    Feb 13 - 6:25 pm

    Thanks Mary Beth – really helpful perspective. I’ve also found Tim Keller’s ‘The freedom of self-forgetfulness’ to be a big help.

  9. mary beth
    Feb 13 - 6:39 pm

    Thank you Emma I’m headed to Amazon right now to look for it! Sadly our society has gotten really “selfie” centered! Thank you for your wonderful blog and I’m looking forward to following you. I found you off Tim Challies blog. God bless you with a wonderful week!

  10. Emma
    Feb 15 - 5:11 pm

    You too sister.

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  12. […] article has be re-published with permission. It was initially published here by Emma Scrivener on her blog, ‘A New Name’ where you will find many helpful resources on […]

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